Learn How to Get to Know Someone Better?
When we are born, the entire world is full of strangers. However, we do have to socialize more and more as we grow up. That’s when our soft skills come in handy. However, this can prove to be quite a difficult task, especially if you want to know someone quite well. Asking vague questions don’t help either because the other person thinks you are not interested. It makes the entire conversation quite half-hearted. If you really want to know someone, you should be able to ask the right questions.
Questions You Should Ask to Get to Know Someone
As we always do, we have made the entire task extremely simple for you. We have prepared a great list of questions that you can ask anyone to get to know them better. We have even divided them into neat categories so that you can choose what type of questions you want to ask. You will know what kind of questions they are by a small description we have given for each of those sections.
Questions of A Random Kind
A lot of good things in life are random and undecided. Some of the best questions you can ask someone to know them better are no different. Random questions can surprise them and help in breaking the ice. Just put on your charm and let the questions work their magic.
1). What is your favourite pastime?
2). What is your name’s meaning? Who gave it to you?
3). What do your friends and family call you? Do you like it?
4). What is a social convention that you find hilarious?
5). What is a social convention that really makes you angry?
6). Do you and your best friend have a special greeting? What is it?
7). What genres of literature do you like the most? Which author is your favourite?
8). What do you like more: coffee or tea?
9). How do you get through tiring days?
10). What is your favourite guilty pleasure?
11). What is the strangest thing that happened to you today?
12). Do you like open endings in movies or books?
13). What is your biggest fear?
14). What is the greatest joy you have?
15). What is the food you crave when you are sad?
16). What is the one food you would not have with a gun to your head?
17). Have you ever tried anything which did not look appetising?
18). How do you make yourself calm in stressful situations?
19). What was the first movie you ever watched?
20). What things would you expect on a perfect date?
21). What is your dream vacation?
22). Are you a mountain person or a beach person?
23). If you ever got a chance to change your name, what would you call yourself?
24). What is the biggest motivation in your life?
25). What made you so close to your best friend?
26). What is one thing that is paramount in any relationship?
27). Do you like to take care of your skin and hair? If so, what’s your routine?
28). Who has had the most influence on your life?
29). When you get extra money, do you like to save it or spend it?
30). What is one thing that, if taken from you, you wouldn’t be able to survive without?
31). Describe your life in 3 words.
32). Describe your life in 3 emojis.
33). What is one thing you cannot leave home without?
34). Are you a cat person or a dog person?
35). Do you love lazing around in your home or having an adventure?
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Questions of A Romantic Kind
What questions can and can’t be asked on a date drive people crazy. It is always hard to determine where the line is. These questions will help you get to know your date or your partner better.
36). Has there been a pattern in your past relationships? Would you be able to describe it?
37). Everyone has their own theory. How many times can a person fall in love according to you?
38). Do you take the blame for any of your past breakups?
39). What did you think of me when you first saw me?
40). How romantic do you think you are? Would you describe yourself as sappy?
41). What do you think constitutes a perfect relationship?
42). What do you think about live-in relationships?
43). What is the best gift according to you?
44). What is your most charming quality?
45). What is your worst habit?
46). What type of songs do you like to hear?
47). Which is your favourite song? Who is your favourite singer or band?
48). What type of books do you like reading?
49). Who is your favourite author?
50). How fast is too fast and how slow is too slow in a relationship?
51). What should I call you?
52). How do you approach fights in a relationship?
53). What is the food that you like to eat when you are upset?
54). Do you like being pampered?
55). What is one factor you think might affect our relationship?
56). What is the silliest thing you have done on a date?
57). What is the most embarrassing thing you have done on a date?
58). What is the perfect date night for you?
59). What junk food do you like to eat?
60). Do you eat ice cream when you are upset?
61). What is your way of relaxation after a stressful week?
62). What is the most romantic movie you have watched?
63). Have you ever been on a double date? What was it like?
64). What do you like the most about me?
65). What do you dislike the most about me?
66). Do you have a secret that you have never told anyone? Would you tell me?
67). Do you think I am trustworthy?
68). Have you ever had a crush on a teacher?
69). Do you believe in love at first sight?
70). Do you believe in soul mates?
Questions of An Interesting Kind
These questions are amazing at creating and maintaining a great vibe in a conversation. These can make someone extremely interested in you an elongate your chat.
71). What is the best pickup line someone has used on you?
72). What is the best pickup line you have used on someone?
73). What is one pickup line you wish somebody would use on you?
74). What is the worst pickup line someone has used on you?
75). What is the worst pickup line you have used on someone?
76). How comfortable are you when you are asked personal questions?
77). What drink do you like the most?
78). How easily can you convince a person?
79). What is your most interesting quality or ability? Is it good or bad?
80). What do you prefer more: shopping online or shopping offline?
81). Where do you absolutely love to spend your time?
82). Would you rather spend time with your friends or with your family?
83). If you had to choose an evening with your friends or your partner, who would you choose?
84). What is your ideal celebration idea for your birthday?
85). What is the best gift someone has given you?
86). What is the best gift you have ever given anyone?
87). What is the worst gift someone has given you?
88). What is the worst gift you have ever given anyone?
89). Which word describes you the best: extrovert, ambivert, or introvert?
90). Do you have any siblings? How often do you fight?
91). What do you want more: fame or money?
92). What is your definition of success?
93). What is your weirdest habit?
94). What is a habit of yours which others find adorable?
95). What matters more to you: personality or appearance?
96). What is your favourite snack to munch on?
97). Are you a meticulous perfectionist or a lazy sloth?
98). Have you ever gone to a spa? What did you get?
99). Would you ever go on a blind date?
100). What subject did you love during school?
101). What subject did you absolutely hate during school?
102). Do you indulge in any kind of art? What is it?
103). What is your favourite childhood memory?
104). What is the most embarrassing childhood memory you have?
105). What is the most embarrassing thing you have ever witnessed?
106). Did you ever fail in school?
107). If you ever discovered a new planet what would you name it?
108). Which is your favourite musical instrument?
109). What did you love about your hometown growing up?
110). Have you ever bribed your way out of a tough situation or into a favourable one?
111). Have you ever stolen anything from a hotel? What did you steal?
112). What are your plans for retirement?
Questions of A Deep Kind
One of the best ways to know someone is to ask them deep philosophical questions. These questions work best when you already know the person a little and want to know them better. All of these questions will spark a brilliant insightful conversation.
113). What is one thing in your life that you would want differently?
114). What is the worst nightmare you have ever had?
115). What is your biggest fear?
116). Do you think we are alone in the universe?
117). What is the most important thing your parents have taught you?
118). What is the right meaning of being educated?
119). What do you really mean by being alive?
120). Where do you think we go when we die?
121). What experience gave you a culture shock?
122). What experience made you realize how lucky you were to have what you have?
123). What experience made you realize how unlucky you have been?
124). Do you think we all have a purpose in our life?
125). Are you afraid of going to hell?
126). What is something that you are seeing less and less in younger generations?
127). Who is your idol? Why so?
128). Have you ever identified and tried to work on your mistakes? What happened?
129). If you could relive your life which decisions would you make differently and which decisions would be the same?
130). Do you think time travel is possible?
131). What is your biggest regret in life?
132). Have you ever gone out of your way to help a stranger? How did that go?
133). Do you believe in karma? Have you had any experience with it?
134). Do you fear death?
135). Do you take decisions impulsively or think them through?
136). What is true intelligence?
137). What would you prefer: romance or luxury?
138). Who are your most grateful for in your life?
139). Do you want to be alone or get a partner?
140). Do you think marriage is really necessary for people to stay together?
141). What is one lesson you want to give your younger self?
142). What is something that your younger self was better at?
143). What motivates you to get up every morning?
144). How confident are you in general?
145). What was the most humiliating experience in your life? What did you learn from it?
146). Do you really think hard work can make you rich?
147). Do you think money can’t buy happiness?
148). How do you know what is good and what is bad?
149). If you ever have to choose between something you want but don’t need and something you need but don’t want, what would you choose?
150). What is truth?
151). If you suddenly woke up as the richest person on earth, what would you do?
152). If you could have one wish granted, what would it be?
153). How different were you when you were younger?
154). What is one event that changed you the most?
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Tips and Tricks
Now that we have given you the questions, we would like to give you some tips as well. Consider it a little bonus for coming this far. Just knowing the questions isn’t enough for carrying a good conversation. You should know how to ask them too.
- Do not go about asking these questions hastily. It may seem very mechanical and might put the person off.
- Do not go into the conversation without preparation. Most of the times, the other person will ask you the same question back, make sure you have a good (and mostly honest) answer ready for when they do so.
- Do not give your answer immediately. They will realize that you prepared it beforehand and will not trust you.
- These questions are merely conversation starters; meant to start a conversation or breathe new life into it. Do not carry the entire conversation with these questions. Use them in a measured way and structure other follow-up questions around them.
- Always judge the mood of the person you are talking too. If they act disinterested or defensive then your questions may not be working. Try asking them other, less invasive questions to lighten the mood.
- Keep the conversation as fun and light-hearted as possible.